Tips for single moms to build relationships with one another:
To piggyback on my very first article, Single mothers band together to help each other out, I wanted to come back periodically and give you not only updates on the three mothers I focused on , but to give you some tips on how you too can develop similar bonds with other single moms in your neighborhoods and surrounding areas.I think it is extremely important to understand that although we may encounter a situation that leaves us raising our children alone, we most certainly do not have to bare this sometimes overwhelming task all by ourselves. You see, whether you know it or not, you may have a neighbor that only lives houses or even a couple of blocks away that is also holding it down by her lonesome.
Whether you live in Botswana, Africa or in Wilmington, Delaware, you are truly not alone. Here are a few tips to get you started participating in and contributing to the concept of that old saying, " It takes a village to raise a child!"
#1. When you find yourself at your child's school or daycare, speak to other parents and mothers. The only way to meet people is to first ackowledge that you see them. It is kind and curteous to speak to people, whether it is staff or a fellow-parent.
#2. Ask questions and get to know who your children are around and who their parents are.
When your kids are out playing and or participating in events where other kids and parents are a part of, find out who is who. Find out who lives near or around you and what are their names. Do not be afraid to ask children what their parents names are and if you can meet them.
#3. Get acquainted with the parents and moms of other children you know have a single parent household. You may not even realize how either you can help this other parent or how this other parent may be able to help you. You may just find that you need someone to talk to in the interim that your child has an issue that you are not familair with or do not have any experience with. You may simply want another child to be able to stay the night or if your child wants to sleep over a friend's house, you may want to know who the mother is.
In my city, Wilmington, I live in what is known as Southbridge.
We have a facility called the Neighborhood House ( www.neighborhoodhse.org/) and there are several basketball courts in the surrounding area of our neighborhood. We have a couple of Barber shops, corner stores, even a Metro PCS store, a local cleaners and a BP gas station, all within a 10 block radius of walking distance. We have a Firehouse and of course your local Liquor store as well as churches and a few other places of business. There are residents who have lived here for more than 30-40 years. There is no reason that single mothers, fathers and parents can't get to know one another and build relationships to help our youth prosper and become successful in life.
One last tip before I go,
#4. Get your children involved in these programs and recreational facilities and establish a repore with the people helping to occupy your children's time, motivate and encourage them to stay out of trouble and educate them to improve and succeed in their lives. It may feel like we are all alone when the bills are due and not enough money is coming in, or our children encounter situations that bewilder and confuse us at times, but if you at least make an effort to try some of the tips I have suggested, things will get better,one moment, one event, one day at a time. Other people are in place to do their part, so as the parents, single or not, we should give them the benefit of the doubt and share in the responsibility to utilize the help that is available by building relationships with others who are traveling the same road we are, this may make the journey less lonely in the end.
Big thanks to this site.
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